Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Don't take it personally

It's the end of the year -- a time when many are making their resolutions for the new year. Even if you don't make resolutions, you may find this post of interest. Writers everywhere share something in common -- dealing with naysayers.

Feeling hurt because a critic cut your masterpiece to shreds? You're not alone. Criticism and bruised egos are inherent in publishing, communications, and life.

Here are some tips on how to cope with critics.

  • It’s natural to feel hurt about criticism, but don’t drown yourself in pity. Get over it.

  • All critics are not alike. Some are just plain cranky while others consider themselves experts. If you’re lucky, you’ll run into people who offer you constructive comments – objective opinions that can help you improve your work.

  • Understand that some critics will attack anyone or anything just to draw attention to themselves – to make themselves feel superior. Don’t take the remarks personally. Shake them off.

  • Separate the critic from the criticism. Realize that any criticism may carry a little bit of truth. Be open to the fact that your work could use some fine-tuning, but never allow criticism to dampen your self-confidence.

  • Don’t dwell so much on criticism that you allow it to drain your energy and motivation. Deal with it, and then move on.

  • Understand that ALL writers have their critics. You don’t have to like it, but don’t let it overwhelm you.

Bottom Line: It’s a sure bet that the more you achieve, the more attention you’ll attract from critics. If you learn to handle criticism in a calm and positive spirit, you’ll definitely grow as a person and a writer.

Chill. It's a great way to start off the new year.


Shirazi said...

So wise. Thanks for this reminder.

BenSpark said...

Deb. Great point to think about for the new year. I know I didn't achieve all my goals last year but I had goals and worked at them and that is what is important.

Deb S. said...

Shi: It's always good to hear from my blogging guru. :-)

BenSpark: I appreciate your stopping by. Thanks for the kind words. It's always nice to hear from someone who's mastered the art of blogging.

Happy New Year, guys!